Have you figured the second head is fake?

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It was a glorious day, bright and full of laughter.  That was the day my sister got married to her ex-husband, their future looked bright and we were all happy about the union and we all thought it was the start of more beautiful things to come.  After the glorious occasion, my sister was called by women elders to give her advice on how to carry herself and how to take care of her marriage.  One elderly lady cried as she was about to give her advice. 

When she regained composure, she told my sister who was now given a new name by her in-laws, she advised her never to lose focus of her ambitions and that she should never allow anything to change her because the road ahead will be filled with up’s and down’s.  One in-law after the other told her of how she should regard herself equal to her husband, how they should overcome their obstacles hand-in and always be there for each other.  We left my sister with confidence, being re-assured that her new home welcomed her as their own child and knowing that she was an equal companion her marriage.

Little did we know when trouble will start to brew, my sister will feel like a helpless kid in her own home.  Little did we know that the very same in-laws will look the other way and tell her to patiently wait for the day when her husband will find his senses.  Little did we know the words uttered in front of those guests were empty words to fool us into believing that the inequality in marriages is being eradicated.  We all thought finally women were starting to be taken seriously and that the contribution in their household gave them a degree of authority.  My sister was told she was co-heading in their house and when trouble visited her home, when her husband decided when to come home and when not to sleep at home, she was reminded that the man is the head of the household and she must just bear with him.  Today I know that that second head that they spoke about on that memorable day was always fake, the inequality in our marriages is still there.  Pity I had believed we were indeed moving towards the right direction.