New bank notes

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I heard people expressing their dissatisfaction about the look of our new bank notes.  I knew even before seeing the notes that I would fall in love with them.  I knew before touching them that I would be honoured to carry a picture of an African leader in my wallet.  I knew I would be honoured to carry a face of a person that had sacrificed and contributed so much towards my liberation.

 

 

 

Honestly, if it were up to me, if it was possible, I would love to carry the faces of all those people that rose against all odds  and fought for my  total emancipation.  I am one of those that are able to appreciate the value of these notes, their look and feel is not relevant to me but their symbolism means the world to me.

 

 

The smile on my face

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I have lived a half a century, I have cried, I have had my heart broken into thousand pierces but I still have a beautiful smile on my face.  I have work hard to be where I am, there were times when a smile had to be forced by at the end of the day that smile became permanent.

The smile that is on my face managed to come through during years of hardship, it healed my emotional pain and it removed the physical pain that was tormenting me.  The people that smiled with me during my days of turmoil made me feel wanted, accepted and appreciated.  Their smile gave me courage to rise above it all.  Their smiles calmed my fears, insecurities and anxiety.  I am grateful to be able to smile through it all.  I am happy and my smile says it all. #smed12

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

People that matter in my life

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In this journey called life we meet a lot of people, some make an impact and others just don’t leave a trace at all.  As I grow older I have vowed to care about the people that matter in my life, those that make a difference and those that worry about my wellbeing.  I care about people that love me in return, those that understand when they have wronged me and apologize for their actions.  I want to be surrounded by people that inform  me when I have wronged them and when I am losing my way.

 

 

The people that matter to me are those that are willing to listen to my problems even though they might not have the solutions to my problems.  I want to be surrounded by people that understand my downfall, people that rejoice with me when I am happy and those that hold my hand when all fails.

I love people and I appreciate their contribution in my life.  I am growing older, I don’t have time to nurse ego’s of people that don’t care about my wellbeing, I don’t have time for selfish people.  All I want is to be around people that I love and those people that love me back. #smed12

My kind of music

 

 

 

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The music that I listen to tells a story, its music that rekindles my soul, music that touches my spirit.  I am in love with music that teaches me to be empathetic towards other peoples culture, music that develops my compassion.  I love music that helps me to express myself, music that takes me to desired places.

I live for my music because for a moment it kills my pain, it reduces my stress levels and it stimulates my brain cells.  I am a very active person, my music boost my exercise performance and promotes a good nights sleeps.  The music that I listen to helps me in my spiritual journey, it helps my worship to be meaningful and makes me feel closer to my Creator. #smed12

 

 

Knowing when to give up

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There comes a time when one has to just give up on someone, a time when one has to let go of the one they love.  Letting go of a love one can be very painful but it has to be done at some point.  A relationship is between two people and when the other one has lost interest then it is no longer a relationship.  There is nothing more painful than being in a relationship were you are not happy and you are forever fighting about useless things.

There are many signs that show that your partner has lost interest.  People in a relationship do certain things that couples to and when suddenately the other partner feels uncomfortable in doing those things, that might mean the romance is vanishing.  Telling lies of where he or she is going, or where the other partner has been can also be a sign that his or her interest are elsewhere. 

When these things happen one should not despair and think there is something wrong with them, we need to understand the realities of love and life.  The harsh reality of life is that we are going to get hurt, we are going to cry and our hearts will be broken at one point in our lives.  All that we need to do, is not to settle for second best and let go once that time has arrived, sometimes we have to just try and forget about the person that once loved you and move on.#smed12

 

 

 

 

My idea of a meaningful life

Now more than any other time, I am eager to do things that are meaningful in my life.  I understand fully that I have only one lifetime and I may not be able to re-do all the things that I have done wrong.  I have resolved that I will try by all means to do the important things and focus all my energy on developing my myself and those around me.

I believe strongly that I should pursue the things that are close to my heart.  I would pursue my passion and do things that are worth living.  Being raised by a parent that truly understood her reason for living, I vow to do things that inspire me and those around me.  My principles would be my guiding manuscript and that would also make me aware of myself and my actions.

We are living in times were people are struggling to sustain their livelihood, the thought of giving back to those in need of help and make another being happy would add a smile to my face.  Loving people and understanding their value in my life is more fulfilling than possessing material items.#smed12

The importance of education

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The youth of today do not realize the importance of being educated.  They don’t realize that education is a source of hope, that it instills a sense of pride and gives one courage to dream and pursue their desires.  They fail to understand that education open minds and allows one to identify and rectify their mistakes.  

Education allows people to effectively take advantage of their human rights and also allow one to understand the limits of their rights so that those rights do not infringe on another person’s rights.  Education assists one to distinguish between what is right and what wrong.  It’s also one of the requirements for many professional disciplines, which means education is one of the things needed for one to compete and succeed in this world. #smed12

The benefits of crying

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One might never fully understand the benefits of crying but the act can do so much to eliminate stress and sorrow that one might be experiencing.  Crying has a medical benefit, it protects our eyes from irritant and foreign bodies such as dust.

Crying can get one through difficult times and help one lift their mood.  When one feels pressure, frustration, sorrow and anger, they should take effective measures to release the negative emotions.  Negative emotions are terrible for the health of the brain, heart and other organs, therefore crying assist in dealing with the emotions in a healthy, natural and curative manner.

People especially males tend to refuse to cry because crying is associated with being weak and surrending to the emotions.  They do not understand the danger of bottling feelings inside and that they can end up being depressed. #smed12

100 Things to do before I die

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There is a lot I have done in my lifetime but as a human being, one should never stop living and doing new things and that should not be a scary thought.  I have spent most of my life pursuing my career and taking care of my household but going forward I know I would want to pursue my hobbies.  I will follow my heart, do things that provide joy and concentrate on the things that I love the most. 

I have always dreamed of going to various destination, explore different places, study new cultures and see new things.  Learning another African language has always been one of my best wishes, I will make sure that I learn more than one African language.  I want to make sure that I clear all the misunderstandings I might have had with people.  I want to socialize more, connect with old friends and find new ones that will complement my life.

I might not be able to fit all 100 things on this piece but I know for sure that I want to live within my means, I don’t want to find myself battling with debts and worries.  I hope one day I will be able to mentor and groom a young person.  I would love to volunteer my service and expertise and help someone in need.  More than anything else, I want to spend more time with my grandchildren, I want to bond with them and see them blossom into loving Souls. #smed12

What is a cliche

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A cliché is defined as an expression that has been overused to an extent it evokes no emotions.  Writers are always urged to avoid using clichés because their work can sound corny to the reader.  Writers that use a lot of clichés may appear to lack creativity.  Writers also fall at risk of utilizing a cliché that does not fit with the pierce and distorts the entire message of the story.

In the world of politics, the actions of politicians have become clichés, one election after the otherthey spread the same message and never deliver.  Throughout the world, during an election, one will hear people saying the same thing over and over again.  The unfortunate thing is when civilians have made their lives a cliché, when they don’t aspire to be anything and they complain about the same thing over and over again. #smed12

My favourite Cat in the Hat book is Nqobile

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Its never an easy task to describe why one has feelings towards something or someone.  Nqobile made it easy for me to understand why I like her, amonst all the cats in that story, Nqobile couldn't help but express her love for her counterparts even though some of them took advantage of her and took her love for granted.  No matter how much they tremble on her, Nqobile seemed to manage to pretend to live in a beautiful world surrounded by nice people.

Nqobile appeared to be compassionate, symphathetic and loving.  This particular cat did not want to hurt other people, to an extend she would prefer to be the one that is hurt in order to protect the ones she loved.  Loyalt was the number factor that kept her with her friends, she would defend them at all cost.

 

On the other hand, Nqobile displayed some manipulative tenderncies, she could use her charm to get what she wanted but was very tactical about it.  Nqobile's only wish was to feel loved, worthy and appreciated by those close to her heart. #smed13

Nothing is more dangerous than an idea, when you only have one idea

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Statistics show an increase in the number of deaths due to suicide.  The number of young people that kill themselves is escalating and authorities seem not to know how to combat this trend.  Society does not understand the danger it is facing when an increasing number of youngsters have only one idea, and that to end their own lives.

That one idea come when the world close down on you, the pain becomes unbearable and no one seem to truly understand how one is feeling.  Everybody’s pain is different and when that pain is so great, one can develop one idea and they pray for the courage to take their own lives.  I know of two strong and powerful man who when the world turned its back on them, they developed one idea and that was to end their own lives.  They lost the will to live and they occupied the minds with finding a way of ending their lives.

Possessing one idea is destroying our society, many young people resort to criminal activities because they do not see another way of living, the only idea of sustaining their lives is through hurting another human being.  Young men and women resort to prostituting their bodies because they can’t generate another idea of sustaining themselves. #smed12

Of all the forms of courage, the ability to laugh is the most

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I could not have ended my blogging journey and my 2012 academic year on a better piece than the one I am writing.  This year marks many things in my life.  It is the year I celebrate my 50^th birthday and its also the year I finally persuaded my life long dream, my dream of obtaining my degree.  The year has been filled with hardships and sorrow but I have managed to pull through because of my ability to laugh.

Laughing has got me through the most unbearable pain, it got me through a time when I thought my ship was sinking and I had to surrender.  There are many types of courage but the ability to laugh has proven to be one of the greatest remedies of pulling though day of hardship for me.  Many saw my face and though all was well, they saw my jovial safe and they concluded that my life was perfect but little did they know that behind that smile and laughter there were wounds that were still bleeding.

When one is in pain, laughing is an effort and many of us take that for granted up until we are faced with life changing circumstances, and then we realize and understand the courage it takes to laugh when one’s world is falling apart.  The courage it takes to laugh when your friends have turned their backs on one and one is alone in a spate confussion.  Courageous are those that wear a smil when the world has turned its back on them, courageous are those that can share a laugh when the forces are against them. #smed12

You cannot chase two rabbits at the same time

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They call them a lost generation, people with no vision and they call them people that lack focus.  I call them a generation that is chasing two rabbits at the same time.  The youth of today have all the opportunities to excel and make something of their lives.  They have no limitations, they are enjoying the freedom to associate with whom ever they want to associate with and they can study anywhere and study towards any discipline they desire to pursue.

Sadly the very same generation are wasting their time and energy persuing irrelevant things, they want to socialize more than adults and they want to live a life that is supposed to be lived by adults.  The Youth of today make studying a second if not a third priority and they concentrate on having a nice time.  They forget that in order to sustain one’s life, one has to finish what they started first, they have to finish their schooling life then start living a jovial life.

The Xhosa Nation have a term that mean the same thing, the term goes  as follow “ Awunakubetha intake ezimbini ngelitye elinye” which means you cannot hit two birds with one stone.  I wish the generation of my twins can fully understand that term because its impossible to pursue two different lifestyles at the same time, one has to give in and in most cases, the one that gives in is the one that is most important in one’s life.  #smed12

The statute of limitation has expired with our childhood

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I hope we can all say the statement above is true but in actual fact there are many people who are suffering because of the trauma they experienced in their childhood.  Trauma that is left untreated most of the time, comes back to haunt an individual and in more extreme circumstances it can affect those around them.

I know of women and men who were physically and sexually abused in their childhood.  The fear and trauma they experienced, they took it with them to their adult life and many of these adults are struggling to detach themselves from that.  The effect of what happened to them is impacting negatively on their adulthood.  The hurt and pain is so visible, it is so evident in how they conduct themselves and they cannot find it in their power to break the cure and move on with their lives.

I wish with all my being that the statement was true for many but the reality is that we tend to carry the baggages of our childhood through to our childhood.  Plenty a time, those baggages limit us from progressing and they limit us from realizing our full potential. #smed12

Olny bad things happen quickly

They lived a perfect life up until the devil entered their household and destroyed the good and loving home that was adored by many.  The day that was supposed to be a joyous day, the unexpected visit of the father who worked out of town, a husband and a father to three beautiful children ended in tragic manner that shocked the entire community.  The very person that was supposed to protect the family             www.fotofirst.com                                 from  them to their graves in a gruesome manner.

Gunshots were heard, one after the other and many thought the gangsters in the area were attacking each other again.  Little did we know, these shots were the brutal end to lives of people we have spent many years with.  This is the day when the man that was supposed to protect his household decided to shoot and kill his wife and their children because of his suspicion which he never proved.  The man shot and killed his entire family and spared his own life.

Painful was to hear of this satanic act, painful was to hear that our neighbors are no more, painful was it to hear a man who was trusted and loved by his victims planned and executed the end of their journey on this earth.  No one saw the signs and no one imagined such a thing will ever occur in our little community. #smed12

Why I have conversations

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The Lord created us in a way that required us to interact with other people.  I live in my own world, I have my own thoughts and I have a way of doing things and sometimes my thoughts and actions impact on other people’s lives hence I find it imperative to have conversation.  Conversations assist me to understand the way other people do things and why they do those things.

Conversations also assist me to better understand the world.  In the mist of my troubles, talking to someone also assist me to comprehend what is happening to me and also try to understand why the certain thing is happening.  Engaging with people who have been through the route I might be travelling also assist to getting the answers that I might be in great need of.

Being a parent is a challenging task, nothing is ever predictable and the journey for many is never a smooth one.  Conversing and sharing my journey with other parents makes me feels like I am not the only one, there is someone that understands my joys and frustration.   With the troubles I have encountered throughout my life, I believe more than ever that it’s vital to converse with other people. #smed12

WATCH THIS SPACE

 

 

I don’t mean to brag but I need to tell the world how blessed I am to be raising beautiful identical twins.  The kids are not only beautiful on the outside, they are angels on the inside too and this is proven by the way they interact with other kids and adults.  Their smile lights up a room and their presence is felt by everyone.

Watch this space because I know for a fact I am raising leaders, they seize the moment and are not shy to express their feelings.  They are clear on what they want and what they expect from other people.  I am proud to be raising these souls in a democratic dispensation where they are free to be what they want to be.  Watch this space because I know I am raising intellectuals, as young as they are, they are not lazy to think and they take their foundation studies very serious.

I am not shy to boost about the blessing that the Lord has showered me with.  Watch this space because the Lord is going to continue to bless me with many other beautiful things.  I cherish all my ups and down because they make me who I am today. #smed12